Do They Really Know What They’re Protesting?

I was in Ukiah, California yesterday.  It was a lunch stop off on the way home from a beautiful weekend on the Mendocino coast.  As we parked the car, I noticed that, like a lot of small towns this time of year, they were having a pumpkin festival complete with bounce houses and very happy children running around everywhere.  Then, as I crossed the street, they caught my eye.  Protesters, walking back and forth angrily carrying their signs.  I guess it was the “occupy Ukiah” crowd.  As I read their signs, I was very confused.  “Jobs not guns” and  “Who is the DEA”, were two of my personal favorites.  I couldn’t tell if the “jobs not guns” lady was for more gun control or she was somehow trying to convince the government that they should start a program where if you turn in a gun, they give you a job for life….maybe in the DEA!  The second lady, I’m quite sure, was for unlimited access to whatever her little heart desired.

My point here is that many times these people don’t really have any idea what they’re unhappy with.  It just makes them feel good to get their signs and their sharpies out and march for whatever cause is popular that day.  It’s their purpose in life to save us all by carrying signs and chanting anti-establishment, anti-American rants while cashing their government checks every month.  Oh yes, they’re the first in line to get food stamps and welfare and WIC and whatever other freebies that they’re “entitled” to.  This, “the world owes me something” attitude really bothers me.  The world doesn’t owe us anything.  Nor do the people who have worked their butts off to make a great life for themselves.  They don’t owe you anything either.

I was taught at a young age that I could have anything I wanted in life if I was willing to work for it.  With all our problems, we still live in the greatest nation on the face of the earth.  Why do you think so many people are willing to risk everything to get here?  However, there are many in this country who are trying to turn it into the biggest nanny state in history.  I, for one, have had enough!  Drop your signs and your chants and go out and get a J. O. B..  McDonald’s is always hiring, and don’t think of yourself as too good for that.  None of us are, including myself.  And if that’s what it took to make sure that my family had food on the table, I’d be the first in line for that job.  Quit protesting the very people who employ you.  I don’t know about you, but I’ve never worked for a poor person in my life.  People with money are not all inherently bad.  In fact, most are really good people who have worked their tails off to get where they are.  Some of them may have even worked for McDonald’s.

Watch What You Say…it just may come true!!

It amazes me sometimes how parents talk to their kids.  With all of the information out there about how powerful the brain is, how could a parent ever tell his/her kid that they’re a brat, or a delinquent, or stupid?  I have a tough time with parents who complain about how terrible their kids are when the parents are the problem.  I believe from the bottom of my heart that children of all ages will do what is expected of them.  The problem we have right now is that we’ve lowered expectations so much, and our children, as always, are meeting those expectations.  Disrespect of adults, talking back, poor performance in school,  and defiance are all things that are prevalent today when 30-40 years ago they never would have been allowed to happen.

When a kid is misbehaving, don’t call them a brat, CORRECT THE BEHAVIOR!!  Your negative words are just perpetuating the situation and guaranteeing that it will happen again.  When a child is told over and over again that they’re a brat, especially when it comes from the person they look up to most in the world, they are going to live up (or down) to those expectations!!  Kid’s need discipline not to be denigrated.  They need to know exactly what their boundaries are and what is expected of them.  Then when they do something right, praise them.  Tell them how incredible they are.  Let them know they can have anything they want to have, that they can be anything they want to be, that they can do anything they want to do.

When my kids were much younger, I used to put them to bed every night.  As we were saying our goodnights, I would ask them three questions….:”What kind of day is tomorrow going to be?”  They would answer with words like spectacular or terrific or awesome or incredible.  Then I would ask them, “and who is going to make it that way?”  They would excitedly say, “I AM.”  Finally, I would ask them, “What are you going to think about as you fall asleep?”  I would get answers like, I am a champion, I am a winner, I am incredible, I can do anything…”  This went on every single night for many, many years.  Now I ask you, is it any wonder that I have very happy, positive, successful children.  They were planning their lives every night, and they were planning them in a very positive way.  Isn’t that better than the kid who goes to bed every night with their parents telling them they’re brats or stupid or worthless?

Maybe I’m crazy, but I truly feel that the biggest problem with kids nowadays are their parents.  Kids will truly do what they’re expected to do.  What are you expecting from your kids, and more importantly, what are you saying to them?  Raise your expectations, change your words, and you’ll be amazed at the results.

Hello world!

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