Acres of Diamonds

“Sometimes the things we want most in life are closer than we think, but we’re so busy searching elsewhere that we don’t even see them.”

–Unknown– 

I was asked the other day whether I had ever read the book, “Acres of Diamonds”, by Russell Cromwell.  I said I had read it years ago, and I proceeded to tell the story as best I could.  A couple of nights ago, I decided to pull out my copy and read the story again.  Its message is so powerful that I thought I would dedicate some time to it here.  The book is a classic, and if you ever get a chance, I recommend picking up a copy for yourself.

The book is a true story about a farmer who lived in Africa and through a visitor became very excited about looking for diamonds.  It seems that diamonds were in abundance all over the African continent.  This farmer got so excited about finding his fortune in diamonds that he sold his farm and headed out to search for the precious stones.  For years he wandered all over the continent searching for diamonds, but he never found a single one.  Eventually this farmer went completely broke and threw himself into a river and drowned.

Meanwhile, the new owner of the farm was outside one day and picked up an unusual looking rock about the size of a large egg.  He liked the way the rock looked so he brought it inside and put it on his mantle.  A few days later a friend stopped by the farm.  When the friend saw the rock on the mantle, he almost had a heart attack.  He told the new owner of the farm that the funny looking rock on the mantle was about the biggest diamond that had ever been found.  The new owner of the farm said, “Heck, the whole farm is covered with them!”  The new owner was right.  The farm turned out to be the Kimberly Diamond Mine…the richest mine the world has ever known.  The original farmer was literally sitting on “Acres of Diamonds” when he sold the farm.

Sometimes we are all guilty of being too busy looking all over the place for our fortune in diamonds, and we miss the diamonds right under our feet.  God has a way of putting us where we’re supposed to be in life whether we realize it or not.  We spend so much time searching everywhere else for the things we desire that we miss out on the goodness He has placed all around us.  It’s important to realize that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence.

I challenge you to take some time to notice the diamonds you have in your life right now.  Don’t be like the farmer and miss out on something you already own.  Nothing is worse than having to live with regrets later on in life.  Be happy where you’re at, and search in your own back yard for the things that you desire.  You may be surprised to find your own “Acres of Diamonds”.

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I’ll Be Happy When…

“Prosperity doesn’t guarantee happiness, and poverty doesn’t deny it.”                          –Unknown—

I remember a few years back when I used to attend a training in Arizona every month. The training focused on building a practice, but it was also about the way we live our lives. The seminar was given by a friend of mine who is from South Africa named Fred. Fred used to love to show slides. In fact, every Saturday night after the training he would give a slide show for everyone. One night he was showing some slides from a recent trip he had taken to Africa. He came to a slide of a young black boy standing by himself in the middle of a dirt road. Fred explained that he had taken this slide while traveling through Zimbabwe. The boy was very thin and had on some tattered jean shorts and a light button up shirt. He was holding onto a well-used soccer ball. The striking thing about this photo though was the smile that was on this young boy’s face. He was grinning ear to ear with a smile that was infectious.

Fred went on to explain that he was amazed at how happy all of the children were that he ran into along his travels. This boy however was special. Let me tell you what that incredible smile didn’t show. That smile didn’t show how he lived with ten others in an 8 x 10 foot shack with dirt floors and a thatch roof. That smile didn’t show that the clothes on his back were the only clothes he owned. That smile didn’t show that his father was shot to death and his mother had died of a disease four years prior. That smile didn’t show that the soccer ball he was holding was the only material possession he owned. That smile didn’t show that he was lucky to get a slice of bread and some rice to eat for the entire day every day. Yet, he was as genuinely happy as any kid Fred had ever met.

In our lives, it’s really easy to fall into the “I’ll be happy when…” trap. You know what I’m talking about. I’ll be happy when I get a new job. I’ll be happy when I find a better mate. I’ll be happy when I make a million dollars. I’ll be happy when I get that big house. I’ll be happy when I’m driving that BMW. I’ll be happy when I retire. I could go on and on. Don’t get me wrong. I like nice things as much as the next guy, but I also realize that those things don’t make you happy. I’ve known a lot of miserable rich people in my life, but I’ve also know a bunch of extremely happy rich people. What’s the difference? Happiness comes from the inside. If you’re miserable without money, you’ll be even more miserable when you have it. If you’re happy, it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got.

I now understand what Fred was trying to teach us with that particular picture. Don’t look on the outside for things to make you happy. Work on yourself to be happy on the inside. Take a look at all of the blessings you already have and be thankful for them. Sometimes the things we seek out the most are right in front of our face. Serve others and give of yourself every chance you get. Spend the majority of your time with the people you love and the people who love you. You’ll find in your life that there will be very few who meet that criteria. Don’t take life so seriously…take time to smell the roses. Finally, smile like the boy from Zimbabwe. It’s amazing how good that will make you feel.

The Secret of Enthusiasm

“Life’s blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed at the fire of enthusiasm.”

–Norman Vincent Peale—

During my life, I cannot remember a period of time more difficult than the one we’re living in right now.  Each day more and more people are losing their jobs, losing their homes, and losing the fortunes that they’ve worked their entire lives to accumulate.  I hear the heartbreaking stories every day in my office.  People from all walks of life with tears in their eyes telling me they don’t know what to do or where to turn.  It’s frustrating to me because I know in my heart that we always make it through times like this.  Not only do we make it through times like this, but we get through them much better off than we were before. However, it’s still a difficult thing to convince people when they’re right in the middle of the crisis.  As bad as it is right now, our country has been through tough economic times before.  In the seventies, there was gas rationing, unemployment was through the roof, interest rates were over 20%, and people were struggling big time.  Nevertheless, those tough years were followed by thirty of the most prosperous years the world has ever seen.  We’re Americans.  We live in the most incredible nation on the face of the earth.  Sure, things might seem hopeless right now, but somehow we’ve got to look inside ourselves and find a way out of this mess.  Is it possible?  Of course it is.  The thing we must guard against is allowing these obstacles to rob us of our enthusiasm for life.  It is enthusiasm that drives us forward to achieve bigger and better things, and it is enthusiasm that gives us the self-discipline we need to tackle those problems that we don’t necessarily want to deal with.

Enthusiasm…the word is derived from the ancient Greek word, enthousiasmos, which means, “inspiration by the presence of God”.  I got chills when I read that definition.  To be enthusiastic is to be inspired by the presence of God.  I like it!  We may not be able to control everything that goes on in our lives.  In fact, the longer I live the more I see we are in control of very little of what happens to us.  However, the one thing we are in control of is our attitude and how we deal with the different challenges we face.  It’s our choice.  It’s easy to sit around and worry about our situation, but the people who make the decision to tackle each and every problem with enthusiasm are the ones who come out ahead every single time.  Remember, IT’S OUR CHOICE!!

Enthusiasm is infectious.  Just by being enthusiastic, you make the people around you feel better, and in turn, they become enthusiastic as well.  It’s much more fun hanging out with an enthusiastic person than someone who is moping around and depressed.  In fact, if you find yourself having trouble being enthusiastic, don’t hang out with people like yourself.  Find your most enthusiastic friends and family and start hanging out with them.  It will be more enjoyable, and you’ll be amazed how, all of a sudden, you’ll start feeling enthusiastic too.  If you don’t feel enthusiastic, fake it!!!  The more you act enthusiastically, the more you’ll start feeling that way on the inside.  Living life with enthusiasm will take you places you never thought you could go.  Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,” Every great and commanding movement in the annals of the world is due to the triumph of enthusiasm. Nothing great was ever achieved without it.”  Now, go out and do great things!

Do They Really Know What They’re Protesting?

I was in Ukiah, California yesterday.  It was a lunch stop off on the way home from a beautiful weekend on the Mendocino coast.  As we parked the car, I noticed that, like a lot of small towns this time of year, they were having a pumpkin festival complete with bounce houses and very happy children running around everywhere.  Then, as I crossed the street, they caught my eye.  Protesters, walking back and forth angrily carrying their signs.  I guess it was the “occupy Ukiah” crowd.  As I read their signs, I was very confused.  “Jobs not guns” and  “Who is the DEA”, were two of my personal favorites.  I couldn’t tell if the “jobs not guns” lady was for more gun control or she was somehow trying to convince the government that they should start a program where if you turn in a gun, they give you a job for life….maybe in the DEA!  The second lady, I’m quite sure, was for unlimited access to whatever her little heart desired.

My point here is that many times these people don’t really have any idea what they’re unhappy with.  It just makes them feel good to get their signs and their sharpies out and march for whatever cause is popular that day.  It’s their purpose in life to save us all by carrying signs and chanting anti-establishment, anti-American rants while cashing their government checks every month.  Oh yes, they’re the first in line to get food stamps and welfare and WIC and whatever other freebies that they’re “entitled” to.  This, “the world owes me something” attitude really bothers me.  The world doesn’t owe us anything.  Nor do the people who have worked their butts off to make a great life for themselves.  They don’t owe you anything either.

I was taught at a young age that I could have anything I wanted in life if I was willing to work for it.  With all our problems, we still live in the greatest nation on the face of the earth.  Why do you think so many people are willing to risk everything to get here?  However, there are many in this country who are trying to turn it into the biggest nanny state in history.  I, for one, have had enough!  Drop your signs and your chants and go out and get a J. O. B..  McDonald’s is always hiring, and don’t think of yourself as too good for that.  None of us are, including myself.  And if that’s what it took to make sure that my family had food on the table, I’d be the first in line for that job.  Quit protesting the very people who employ you.  I don’t know about you, but I’ve never worked for a poor person in my life.  People with money are not all inherently bad.  In fact, most are really good people who have worked their tails off to get where they are.  Some of them may have even worked for McDonald’s.

Watch What You Say…it just may come true!!

It amazes me sometimes how parents talk to their kids.  With all of the information out there about how powerful the brain is, how could a parent ever tell his/her kid that they’re a brat, or a delinquent, or stupid?  I have a tough time with parents who complain about how terrible their kids are when the parents are the problem.  I believe from the bottom of my heart that children of all ages will do what is expected of them.  The problem we have right now is that we’ve lowered expectations so much, and our children, as always, are meeting those expectations.  Disrespect of adults, talking back, poor performance in school,  and defiance are all things that are prevalent today when 30-40 years ago they never would have been allowed to happen.

When a kid is misbehaving, don’t call them a brat, CORRECT THE BEHAVIOR!!  Your negative words are just perpetuating the situation and guaranteeing that it will happen again.  When a child is told over and over again that they’re a brat, especially when it comes from the person they look up to most in the world, they are going to live up (or down) to those expectations!!  Kid’s need discipline not to be denigrated.  They need to know exactly what their boundaries are and what is expected of them.  Then when they do something right, praise them.  Tell them how incredible they are.  Let them know they can have anything they want to have, that they can be anything they want to be, that they can do anything they want to do.

When my kids were much younger, I used to put them to bed every night.  As we were saying our goodnights, I would ask them three questions….:”What kind of day is tomorrow going to be?”  They would answer with words like spectacular or terrific or awesome or incredible.  Then I would ask them, “and who is going to make it that way?”  They would excitedly say, “I AM.”  Finally, I would ask them, “What are you going to think about as you fall asleep?”  I would get answers like, I am a champion, I am a winner, I am incredible, I can do anything…”  This went on every single night for many, many years.  Now I ask you, is it any wonder that I have very happy, positive, successful children.  They were planning their lives every night, and they were planning them in a very positive way.  Isn’t that better than the kid who goes to bed every night with their parents telling them they’re brats or stupid or worthless?

Maybe I’m crazy, but I truly feel that the biggest problem with kids nowadays are their parents.  Kids will truly do what they’re expected to do.  What are you expecting from your kids, and more importantly, what are you saying to them?  Raise your expectations, change your words, and you’ll be amazed at the results.

Hello world!

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